Saturday, April 5

Life... Bitter or Sweet?

I wonder how many times we remember the bad deeds and forget the good which was done to us, we break a relationship coz of 1 wrong thing saying that it won’t be the same again; we break friendship saying that a friend can’t do this to us...

I wonder, we are in love with happiness, or may be...FACE OFF!!! We can’t take the truth, we hate when one sad moment appears in our lives and we discard everything which was there for past few days or years may be....

We think too much of what happened, y it happened, but do we think the same when someone gives us the happiness we want??? Do we think over it again n again... do we crib over it, do we fight over it...
And just then I wonder, we don’t love happiness, we love sadness, and we love the hatred around so we keep it in our lives...

People don’t believe in forgiveness, they don’t believe in forgetting what happened; a slap on your face can’t be forgotten like the gift which was given to u on your 5th birthday by your parents, which kept u happy for atleast 15 days then...

I wonder and I wonder...

All these phases are so long, because we want them to be... and we call them the little truths of our life, but y do we tend not to remember the bigger ones... Y don’t we remember that it may the relationship which kept u alive for 6 months, or may be a year... all those happy days are just gone like the moment, the time which will never come back.

I do have a past, I don’t like to call it bitter coz I don’t believe it was bitter, I can’t come out of it because I remember the happy moments which I spent for 6 years. The feeling was amazing, and its not letting me get out of it, guess someone said rightly more than love I m missing the feeling of being loved.

I don’t try to run away from my past, I want to live with it, but I want my present to be made beautiful because of it. When someone says, move on, I say, from whom... myself???

And then people say we are living in a parallel world, forgetting all the others around us, and then I say coz we wish to...
We are becoming meaner day by day, there are very few who live for others making them happy, most of us live for ourselves only, in a world full of illusions, doing things just for ourselves, and those who do it for others, people suggest them to move on... live for themselves...

I wish and I wonder!!!

I guess, those who live for others realize how important it is, even I sometimes think that I should start living for myself, and then I think, Should I be like everyone else then... no ways, that’s not acceptable to me. I believe if there are small things which make people happy, I will keep showing that gesture, and I don’t fid anything wrong with it.

I think at times, we should try and learn from people who don’t have a life to live to, who run rickshaws the whole day to eat their share of the bread and butter (butter huh?). Look at people who can’t buy a dress for years, kids who can’t go to school and never get educated. There are people who have a reason to be unhappy, the bigger reasons. Sometimes we can take our time out of our busy lives, to spend some time with these people, just to make them smile, to bring a new meaning to our lives, if at all we are able enough to do so.

I pledge, to visit a school every weekend, and give few hours to educate kids, as I was doing earlier and currently with my busy schedule was unable to do(I call it busy, and I wonder more… )

Another thought…

I keep visiting people, on their blog, trying to give a new dimension to my thinking, the way I react to situations, and I comment the way I feel about that... and when I spent much time on one blog, discussing and having a share of thoughts, people try to read through me, calling me a flirt, someone whose trying to impress the girl by visiting her... Gosh!!!

I wonder and I realize, I atleast make an honest attempt to read and understand what that person has written, and I write a long comment thinking that when u put something on a public blog, u want people to share with you what they feel about it, I certainly don’t try to make fun of it, I don’t go and crack jokes over there, I believe that everyone has their own set of beliefs and principles, so I respect them and then I may end up getting into a debate with them about what they think and what I think...
But to label as a flirt, I take this offensive...

This was a comment i was writing on Pri latest post... the little truths of life..., but the length was so much that i thought it would be better to post this. :D

Cheers!!!

63 comments:

vEENs said...

It is a problem.. for me.. to understand that I can be loved. I feel it s nt possible.. and in my real life.. i m sarcastic and cynic and mean..

is that a confession enuf?

and no i dnt think u r a flirt .. i never did.. u r a good friend. I guess.. very sincere one ... hard to find yur type here in bloggerville.

thanks for yur friedship :)) I appreciate every moment of it.

Pri said...

well firstly i agree misery is often selfmade...we tend to revel in it only because we want to...
but i dont agree with u when u say that we dont value our happiness...
as for me, i cherish my happy moments for life and will always treasure them :)
so i guess i just cant forget...be it good or bad :)

as for ppl thinking of u as flirting when u express ur opinion, i wonder how shallow minded they an get at times...
though im really surprised ppl think that way...are u sure u rnt assuming or generalising??
because i believe we at blogsville are a mature bunch and yes someone might be pulling ur leg about it but dont think can believe that expressing ur ideas would come across to anyone as flirting...

take care!
and yaa that was a pretty long post!! but guess u got everything u wanted to say off ur mind :)

cheers!

Ankur said...

@veens

No, its not a problem veens, its an illusion, just look arnd there are many ppl like me who love u for wat u r...

and believe me, if i read u by ur blog, u rnt any of those... but yes u r complex and u r insecure... this is wat i feel, debatable and i would love to be proved wrong for the second part... :)

thanks veens for ur kind words and to understand tat i m not a flirt!!! :D
;)

Gud Day Veens
Happy Weekend...

Cheers!!!

Ankur said...

**but i dont agree with u when u say that we dont value our happiness...

debatable...
first... i dont say we dont value our happiness at all, did i? i just said tat we value our sadness more... otherwise when someone is tryin to make us happy by cracking a joke, y we still r thinking abt the same sad moment???

Second... i was talkin abt most, not u in particular... we all cherish our happy moments but wat i mean to say was that we give more importance to sad moments, otherwise tell me y one wrong deed can break a relationship for ever???

i dont have an answer to this... and when someone says, once its done the past cant come back, so all the gud which was done in the past doesnt matter, do we want to say this???

**so i guess i just cant forget...be it good or bad :)

whos asking u to forget, i again say, u can forget something is not scientifically proven, its just tat u tend not to remember...

and i m asking everyone to do this, may be i am asking for a lot, but then yes... think wat will make us happy!!!

**u sure u rnt assuming or generalising??
even i m human, so one instant is enugh to provoke that...

and well i dont mind someone writing it, but other ppl start thinking like it, BHED CHAL we call it in hindi...

:)

And there was lot more to write actually :D ;)

will come up with more i guess... hehee...

Cheers
Happy Weekend

Take CAre!!! :)

ruSh.Me said...

may coz, its easier for us to remember the things that are just short-lived...and gave us the shock....we have lost our attention-span.....longer the duration of happiness, faster we forget...!! :((

Pri said...

@ ankur
well thats what i meant ankur...its not like we value our sad eperiences more...
about the joke thing, the person cracking it might be thnking he can lighten up the moment but need not necesaarily mean that the other is enjoying it...
ohh as for the generalising bit...i agree ur human and it happens sometimes...but guess by thinking that way, the other person who accused u too is generalising right??
so if everyone keeps thinking that he/she should be forgiven for generalising, then u know what a chaos it can lead to :p

sometimes one instant is all it takes to cause trouble! :)

Sweetstickychewy said...

Hello Ankur.:)

I guess its natural for our human nature to pick up on bad things more than the good things.

Some of us struggle to see the good in things in the bad things that happened.

Whatever it is, i feel that there will come a time when we have to wake up from our failures, past and imperfections. not to say that the past is something that never has happened. it happened. But we got to start picking up from there to start seeing new boundaries. And these always takes time.:)


I once read something about happiness. It begins within us. And often we tend to search in other places than the very place where it can be found. Us.

Interesting post Ankur.

Have a good weekend.

Cheers!:D

Vandita said...

well u touched upon a lot of thoughts in one post..
ure right we dont really remember small moments of happiness we are reminded of em when things go wrong and thats when we try and relive em, kinda like trying to hold sand in our palms...
u wondered aloud, most ppl do it silently sometimes and then forget abt it till something else doesn't come along and trigger that thought again...
oh and i didnt think u were a flirt ever...:)

Mez said...

This was supposed to be a comment. Opps u got some patience to write so much. Good hai. I loved the post totally. It aligns to a lot the way I think abut then I just can’t be so forgiving in life to take even bitterness with a pinch of salt and gulp it down happily. It hurts and continues to hurt. We maybe move on in life but some actions remain forever etched in memory though it may not matter today.

Cinderella. said...

Its very important that we understand that a commitment is meant to be taken care of and nurtured with flesh and blood.
Its very convenient to get into smth and then chuck it coz you're either bored of it, or you think it isnt worth the effort.
but then all that it leaves us with is that, we're back to square one.
The same circle continues. Coz no relationship is ever a cake walk. take my words for it.

You love and hate the person the same time. Literally.

I'm reminded of something i'd read somewhere...

"I know I am not easy to love,
but can you atleast try everyday ?"

Nice read.

Ankur said...

@rush.me

**we have lost our attention-span

i should say, due to materialism and changing lifestyles, we have started believing in selective retention...

and guess u r right, the longer the duration of happiness, faster we forget!!! *sigh*

Ankur said...

@Pri

**its not like we value our sad eperiences more...


point taken

**the person cracking it might be thnking he can lighten up the moment but need not necesaarily mean that the other is enjoying it...

exactly my point, coz the other is too busy in himself, y does he forgets that the joke is cracked for the simple reason to bring a smile on the face.

**but guess by thinking that way, the other person who accused u too is generalising right??

i agree with u and admit tat i made a mistake but frankly it hurted me... :|


**sometimes one instant is all it takes to cause trouble!

we know better... isnt ;)
:D
lolzzz

Cheers!!!

Ankur said...

@sweetstickchewy

**I guess its natural for our human nature to pick up on bad things more than the good things.

debatable and i dont agree, its just we think its more suitable and easy... guess need more light to be thrown on this by you...

**there will come a time when we have to wake up from our failures, past and imperfections.

Very True!!! but that will shldnt be too late... :)

**within us...we tend to search in other places

very very true... i think with times we r becoming greedy, more n more... we cant be happy with we have in hands and we want more n more. :)

i hope we stop sometimes, take a break, think where we are going, where all this will lead us... Guess nowhere... *sigh*

Happy Weekend...

thnxxx for dropping by...

Cheers!!

Ankur said...

@vandita

i really did... my mind thinks too much, and when such topics are discussed than i cant ever stop writing... :D

**kinda like trying to hold sand in our palms...

even this is easier...

**u wondered aloud

i m kinda person who cant keep quite for long, if something needs me to speak, then i will open my mouth, few ppl dont give a damn to it and few ppl listen too seriously... i appreciate both, atleast they r listening :)

and thanks... i hope u never will :)

Thnxx for dropping by :)

Cheers!!!

Ankur said...

@mez

more than that i have the patience to read the post... :D

but really i only read coz they provoke my thoughts, so guess i wont ever let my thoughts sleep ever... ever...

**I just can’t be so forgiving in life to take even bitterness with a pinch of salt and gulp it down happily. It hurts and continues to hurt. We maybe move on in life but some actions remain forever etched in memory though it may not matter today.

well, really???
ok... lemme ask u, have u defined any degree of forgiveness? or at any time have u felt tat u shld have forgiven but u havent or may be vice versa...

I can understand that few things hurts badly, and like the scar mark on the face they remain forever, but isnt tat we tend to forget that scar mark... if not at all but sometimes???

and when we say, few actions remain forever etched in memory, then y dont we talk abt happy moments, y cant they be etched, i know the answer, they do, but all of them??? i dont think so, so rather than giving the space to the bitter things y cant we keep those happy moments???

Thnxx for dropping by...
Blogrollin u!

Cheers!!!

Ankur said...

@cindrella

**a commitment is meant to be taken care of and nurtured with flesh and blood.

wat if u do and still this society forces us to break the commitment, m i showing cowardness here, then may be i m coward... but its true. :)

I dont think when u get into a relationship (read no timepass, RELATIONSHIP), then u can ever be bored of it, and it isnt worth the effort... never ever :)
A relationship is something which brings smile to ur face, which let u understand what u r, let u achieve the heights...
its something i cant express in words here and guess my next post will only talk abt it... :)

**Coz no relationship is ever a cake walk. take my words for it.

it only reinforces my thoughts :)

**You love and hate the person the same time. Literally

i dont know, but i dont hate for sure, i dont have the exact word right now for the feeling but certainly its not hate... :)

**"I know I am not easy to love,
but can you atleast try everyday ?"

beautiful verse.. can u refer me so tat i can read the whole of it... :)

Thanks expecially for the last 2 lines... :)

Cheers!!!

Chakoli said...

last statement actually made me laff:-)))

Altho its such a serous post...but conclusion...is :-))))))

AGree to every point u said...but u know...we dont keep sadness with ourselves, its the pain that hw cud a person in whom we had faith so mucch...we loved him so much...can hurt is...we cud forget the mistakes done by them but it is really impossible to forget the pain given by them....

it the murder of our faith and hope that force us to be in sadness:-)))

and u being flirt...whats wrong in that man?
Good spirit... alwayzzz keep them high...jus kidding:-)))

dont worry...evry second person is flirt on this earth...;_))))

Keshi said...

**All these phases are so long, because we want them to be

not really. Sometimes even we ourselves dun hv control over what we want. And every person, situation and the way we handle em is different. We r all not the same.


And who called u a flirt? well if thats how they see u, let it be. If u dun think ur a flirt like they think u r, let it be.


but, while I agree that u r entitled to ur own opinion in a public blog, there's also something called comment 'etiquette'. meaning, it wud be wiser to comment on the content of the post and not drag the author into it. If u know what I mean :)


Keshi.

The 'Mad' Orchid said...

Hmmm..one honest confession....
point blanc....I dunno know what to comment..... maybe ur insights took me to such a world it is certainly gonna take me some time to come back to ground 1 n comment...seriously..
Nah....i never thot or can see u as a flirt...correction U r not a FLIRT but a FRIEND...
Thanks fr the wonderful friendship :) cheers..tc

The 'Mad' Orchid said...

@ P.S
I would certainly come back n comment on this later...

gunj said...

lovely post

I don’t try to run away from my past, I want to live with it, but I want my present to be made beautiful because of it. When someone says, move on, I say, from whom... myself???

through these words you sorted out a lot that a dear frend was trying to explain but couldnt! nw i understand better!

god bless us all!

Ankur said...

@chakoli

well, actually i gave it a thought... and then realize y not write it :)

:D

i know its impossible to forget the pain, but i m just askin to remmeber the happiness which will ease the pain, a lot many happy moments, cant dey take away this pain... i guess we dont try being busy in the pain :)

faith can never be murdered, i dont believe in any such thing... but yes, the trust is not reciprocated in the way it shldnt be.. i agree to this :)

hehe... well, when u flirt then u dont mind callin it, but when urnt flirting, and still u being label as one, i think personally not so gr8.. :)

also my definition of flirt is very different, its very positive :)

:D

Cheers!!!

Thnx for dropping by :)

Ankur said...

@Keshi

**not really. Sometimes even we ourselves dun hv control over what we want. And every person, situation and the way we handle em is different. We r all not the same.

i agree to every point of it, yet the disagreement lies in the fact tat we r all so human... isnt :)
Well, u said rightly, we dont have the control over things, but because we dont want to, not tat we cant, we seek imperfection and we love it, and i m no way sayin that we shld be perfect, but enjoying imperfection isnt tat gr8 at times...

I also accept the fact that we cant be happy or sad all the times, we r bound to have mood swings, but when such mood swings take us on a path of solitude which is more of loneliness, it isnt gr8...

When i ask people to cheer up, the major reason been tat i m a selfish guy, i love to see people happy and when i see someone in sad or bad mood, it makes me uncomfortable...

But above all, its their wish what they want to be, not mine, also i just present my thoughts to them, i dont force them to do something... realization and embracement is quite different from forcing advices.

Its all my personal opinion and all of this is debatable...


Taking abt flirt, there were few actually who called me, gave me some headache coz i m not here for any such thing, or to take someone for a ride. Likewise people understand it and few dont... but thanks for tellin me u dont think of me like it :)

Talking abt dragging the author into something, well i agree, but sometimes you are misunderstood & misinterpreted stating few things... Still i know one shouldnt cross their boundaries and certainly i wont when i have crossed some in the past. Thanks for embracing... i will certainly learn from my mistakes :)

Thnxx a lot keshigirl :)

Cheers!!!

Ankur said...

@mad_orchid

Well, i m happy it made u think so much...

yet i dont know what u r thinking of this... looking forward for ur comment :)

And thnxxx for tellin me tat u dont think of me as a flirt :)

thnxx frnd :)

Cheers!!!
Take cAre :)

Ankur said...

@gunj

thanks...
i guess, sometimes someone needs to put it into words to make it more meaningful for few...

thanks for dropping by :)

Cheers!!!

**god bless us all!

Amen!!!

Keshi said...

**when such mood swings take us on a path of solitude which is more of loneliness, it isnt gr8

true, it isnt great to be that way, but that doesnt mean we should run away from reality, does it Ankur? Sometimes ppl r so afraid to feel down...I dun u'stand that.

Ofcourse u hv to pick up n move on, but asking someone to cheer up when they r at the depths of despair, is like asking for sunshine in the middle of pouring rain. It isnt gonna happen until it's due to arrive.


:)

Keshi.

Ankur said...

@keshi

girlie, i dont afraid to feel down, but if the feeling remains for long, it affects u mentally a lot...

and when u ask someone to cheer up inspite of depair, u want to see that person happy. U r right with every word of wat u said... but at the end of the day, wat shld one do? Let his friends remain in the depths of despair or try to pull them out of it, by doing small things which can atleast reduce the pain by lil... Can u everytime leave ur friend saying that its his personal choice and things will only change when the time will come? Cant we atleast hide under an umbrella if not the sun when its pouring rain.

I know it all sounds so forceful and it may sound like invasion of privacy, but wat r friends there then, and not only friends, why are we human then???

Keshigirl... i know everything takes its due course of time to settle down, but if life would have been so easy and there will be noone to atleast make u believe that it will settle down, wonders arent gonna happen.

I am not the one who asks someone to make a move on, but i just ask u to cheer up despite all which is going on in ur life, i know the past cant be forgotten, but not to remember that with sadness is wat i wanna tell u, i know that there are many things in life which bug u, but if a small gesture of mine can bring a smile on someones face, i interfere (or in my words ask) for tat...

I dont know whether everything happens for gud or not... but wat i know is that even after everythin good can happen...

I know its important to have sadness in our lives too to understand the meaning of happiness, but i do know the fact tat u cant live a life like that... everyone wants to be happy and some wanna make others happy...

Just remember there is some friend of urs, whos standing just there, lookin at you, ready to hold ur hand anytime, not let u falter, not asking u to move on, but ready to be with u despite everything which is going on in ur life, wishing, some day, he can see a smile on ur face...

Cheers!!!

Keshi said...

I agree Ankur. :) tnxx alot!

*HUGZ*

Keshi.

SambY said...

very soulful post sir!!... The past is a gaping hole i am way for me..I try to run from it. But it grows terribble behind me. what i have to do is to turn around and face it.But its not easy... almost like kissing the mouth of a gun....

but then i guess all this misery is self made... with every low came a high point too... but well u know i really cant concentrate on that ..rahther sit n feel bad about the bad things..maybe this is a trait or sumthing...

maybewe need to look beyond this... sum ppl have perfected that art...some are trying... and some need to know that it is possible....

i hope what i wrote made sense... i am in my lab... haha...hiding from view and writing...plz bear with me...i will be back here surely to write more..i love this post..

Ankur said...

@keshi

thnxxx to u keshigirl!!!!

Cheers!!!
Keep Smiling!!! :)

Ankur said...

@samby

**The past is a gaping hole i am way for me..I try to run from it. But it grows terribble behind me.

no past is terrible man... u need to understand it, may be few things didnt work out but the time u had wasnt tat bad tat u call it terrible :)
also the fact that even if u dont look back and face it, it will haunt u, coz the way u look at it... so better u face it, eye to eye... look into it and face it!!!

**sum ppl have perfected that art...some are trying... and some need to know that it is possible....

tryin only begins when u know its possible, so atleast u have started... and believe me the more u believe in it, easier if would be for u to make it beautiful!!!

every word made sense bro, dont worry... leave something on time, but not everything... do ur bit... things wont be so hazy then... :)

I dont know whether i guessed it right or not, but my answers are based on a assumption of a broken relationship or some bad instance in the past :)

Take CAre and enjoy!!!

Cheers!!!

P.S. Thnx for dropping by, blogrollin u :)

Pri said...

@ ankur
that last line in ur reply to keshi reminded me of a dialogue from 'veer zaara'---
"duniya ke kisi kone mein koi bahot khush hain kyonki tum khush ho..."
just kidding! :p

Ankur said...

@Pri

waise sahi keh rahi hai pri tu... kyonki she is in singapore na... :D

waise pune ke kisi kone main koi khush hai kyonki goa ke kisi kone main koi khush hai... n m not kiddin :D

hehehe..
Cheers!!!

Chakoli said...

Hmmmmm

I agree...to what you say...but the its upon the individual....

we try and think many things...but usually dont do it:-)))


Let me kno ur flirt defintion:-))

Ankur said...

@chakoli

ya its upto the individual... agree with u completely :)

but yes many dont, but then thinking too is neccessary, isnt? this is the first step u have to take... i have seen ppl who dont even think... :)

Cheers!!!

Pri said...

@ ankur
wah wah kya dialogue maara hain...here is the budding dialogue writer of bollywood ;p

Pri said...

waise no points because the line is royally COPIED from the one and only SRK!!(the bestest) :p

Chakoli said...

LOL...


Yup...common sense which is most common now a days:-))

Ankur said...

@Pri

well the saddu shahrukh who royaly copies himself in every movie of his.. woh kuch nahi... humne ek line kisi writer ki copy kari toh ilzaam... allah!!!

khuda... :(

waise yeh sada shahrukh itna buddha lagta hai na phir bhi kuch ladkiyan apne bhavishya ko andhkar main dhakelne ki na jaane kyon koshish karti hai.. agar sallu bhai hote toh samajh main bhi aata... :D
:d

Saddu sharukh... Krazy 4 main bhi Hrithik Rocks!!!

:D
:D


:D


hahahaha

hahaha

Cheers!!! ;) ;)

Ankur said...

@Chakoli..

**Yup...common sense which is most common now a days:-))

oh.. tats the reason u asked me the definition of flirting.. is it :P
:P
hehehe
heheh

Cheers!!! ;);)

Pri said...

@ ankur
EXCUZE MOI!! how darrrreee uuu??
im an all time SRK fan...hmpf!! and dont u dare say anything against him...:-/

he is a million times better than that roshan guy btw...HR looks more like an android on steroids :p
btw u shud join 'solitaires' club..even she hates SRK! :((

Chakoli said...

LOL...

I dont have sense.... whate evrr it is called common or uncommon...;-)))

flirting definition is still I m waiiting fr;-)))

Ankur said...

@Pri

totally excuzed!!!!
:P

arre oh hoo... y u gettin so angry... r u karan johar... only karan has the rights to get hurt if someone says something abt Shahrukh :P

Kanta Bhennnnnn :P *ROFL

and who took steroids for OSO everyone knows, Hrithik does all this stunts for himself, not shahrukh!!!

oh... but u r wearing 'Loyal Sharukh Fan' Shades so u cant see that na :P :P

Hrithik Rockssssssss anyday...

and yes... i have to join Solitaire yaa.. didnt know it.. accidentaly we have commonality... :D
:d

hhehehe


Cheers!!! ;)

Pri said...
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Ankur said...

@Chakoli

Really :P i wasnt aware of this.. tumne meri aankhen khol di... :D

waise infact as i said, common sense is not so common so it applies to me too :D :D

as per me, Flirting is most of the times light hearted, to please someone, to make him/her feel good, to make him/her realise of their worth. So i dont fit into the category of ppl who flirt coz someone is beautiful or pretty, coz for me, beauty is all inside a person, urs looks are going to wipe off in 5 or 10 years, but the person you are cant be ever.

Cheers!!!

Pri said...

@ ankur
yaa so just look at his dedication towards his career...and btw he said in a interview that he did it all cos of aryan (his son) since he wanted to see his daddy with 6 packs...now howw cutttee is that? *dreamy eyed*
ohh and btw u can be so SURE about the 'kanta behen' scene ONLY IF u are karan...we all know how ppl make mountains out of molehills esp in bollywood...
and ohh what timing to have this discussion...

this post is just APT for it..
afterall you were talking about how ppl assume things just for the heck of it without even thinking werent u?? ;)
ROFL!!

c e e d y said...

hey ankur - I see you have 3 blogs - will read at leisure on the weekend - and do comment - many you love to write - cool

Ankur said...

@ceedy

looking forward for u to visit my place... and ya i love to write, guess new found love!!! :D

hehee.. but yes, i want to jolt it all down.. :)

Cheers!!!

will read ur story wala blog too.. i read it actually but didnt comment...:D

Gonecase said...

more than love I m missing the feeling of being loved....lovely ! A deep and meaningful post sir :)

Ankur said...

@Pri

**it all cos of aryan (his son) since he wanted to see his daddy with 6 packs..

wow, wat a publicity stunt, his son was sayin this for past 2 years if u have read this also in the papers, so this was just for money tat Farah paid, oh i forgot... he himself was the producer!!! :P

**we all know how ppl make mountains out of molehills esp in bollywood...

and we all know that in bollywood rumors are less than wat actually happens, aur woh ek hindi kahawat suni hai ki nahi???
"Bina aag lage kabhi dhuan nahi hota hai..." :D

**afterall you were talking about how ppl assume things just for the heck of it without even thinking werent u?? ;)

well, its simply not just an assumption... its purely based on news, not just rumours... so u assumed that i m assuming, not the other way round... :)

Cheers!!! :)

Ankur said...

@gonecase

Thnxx :)

Cheers!!! :)

Chakoli said...

Ye lo.....photo mein to already 2 aankhen extra laga ke///khol ke dekh arhe ho...aur kitna kholenge;-)))

Thats agood defintion...:DD
Ill steal it;-)))

Macadamia The Nut said...

Why on earth would you want to justify your actions when you know who you are as a person.
Tell the world to go take a hike

Lena said...

thats how we are.. remember all the evil ever done to us. Fortunately i have a short memory and forget bad things soon... thing is that when you forget about bad ones, you eventually risk to be hurt badly again because you dont expect it. If you keep bad things in mind, you are warned. Such a protective instinct.

Pri said...

@ ankur
nope i dint...IMHO anytthing which dosent give the other person a benefit of doubt is an assumption :)
and ive just used here what u clearly stated...u know kinda like evidence from the horses mouth...
sorry to call u a horse though :p
anyways this is somewhat like the 'coffeebite' advertisement (i think it is off air now)---"the arguement continues..." :D

Dipika said...

You rightly said that we shldnt forget our good times, thts wht all of us tend to do because sadness overpowers happiness.

But yes if the promises done to oneself in badtimes are kept even in goodtimes, they make us a wholesome person in true sense.

Keep up the promises!

Ankur said...

@chakoli...

yaar.. pehle hi aankhen itni choti ho gayi

hain, kahan se dikhega... *sigh*

and steal.. dont dare u... x-(

steal is just not the word... say u will be

inspired :D :D ;)

Cheers!!

Ankur said...

@macadamia the nut

i dont know.. but i guess i really m thinking over ur advice... its more than 10 hours since u posted it and it kept me thinking all day long...

thnxxx a ton...

thnx for dropping by

Cheers!!!

Ankur said...

@lena

**If you keep bad things in mind, you are warned. Such a protective instinct.

i know... so true... u can keep them in mind, but all i wanted to talk abt is not let them hinder ur growth...

but i guess u r right in the end!!! :)

Cheers...

Ankur said...

@Pri

yeah... may be...
i agree to disagree :)

Cheers!!!

Ankur said...

@Dipika

i know wat u r talking abt... i will keep them... :)

Thnx for visiting me...
Cheers!!

SambY said...

about terrible pasts sir...i am no way saying that i only have gone thru shit..:).... therre are many worse than me...but lets be reall..i mean ...when we go thru shit....we calm ourselves by saying that others have been worse n all other positive stuff...but wel the first thought that comes to our mind is why meeeee.... hehe


as for ur assumption.no its not on relationship...hmm well yeah a relationship... but with my supossedly bes friend...residential school and all... have blogged about it will give u the liknk later...:-)...

about facing back.... wel sir of all the 10 years i have lived by my own... i am in a baoarding since i was 11...i have now learnt one thing... i retrospect on the pack..but i dnt face it..i just look back...learn my lessons and continue... i dnt go back and let my past moments haunt me... well sumtimes they do...but still i try not to let them to...

**sum ppl have perfected that art...some are trying... and some need to know that it is possible....

yes... i believe its possible...and now i believe its not that difficult also..but i have not rreached the stage of perfection....

.... thankx sit for blogrolling me..:-)... will do drop in more often here....

cheerz..

deveshmistry said...

the pertinent inclination of human nature is what we end up blaming our coincidences on.

at the end, it's a self realisation on taking responsibility.

we need to own up and face the hard facts on how we perceive the ones we love, which eventually has a trickle-down effect on how we are perceived as well.

everyone makes mistakes, some small, some painstakingly bad ones which leave a residual scar for all our lives.

sometimes we lose the only thing we ever wanted, or ever desired, in the rut of life, things are beseeched and taken for granted a few many a times.

you've got great perspectives on how you welcome circumstances :)