But I think of a question too...
Why cant we just be friend with girls?
Dont know, but i think, most of the times, when a male approach some girl, its always seen as flirting!!! If a male try to talk to them, it seems that he wants to take her out on a date! If a male asks her out, it nothing but a date! If a male ask for the mobile no, oh, he will send them all creepy msgs!
Which city, email, blah blah blah... the male one just want to exploit, he is not real, he is weird, he will misuse!!!
But if the same happens from female side, then males arent allowed to say No! If they ask for cell no, then males cant say No!
Males should tell everything, because they are the worst of it kinds, if they dont, then they are fake!!
If a male is not telling, he is bhav khaooing (showing attitude), but females, they just do it for their safety!!!
And if it is asked to some female, its her choice, when to tell and even to tell or not!!!
I dont know why we males are treated like this, Cant we be genuine, do you think all male are hungry for sex, and that too everytime!!!
I as a male understand that yes, their are bad ppl, who can exploit, but then why is it everyone who is blamed? And the same goes for females too then!!
C'mon, We are real, emotional, and we can be friends too... Some bad experience of yours cant blame the whole gender!! :)
If we think of(just think of) some female to be a friend, its just labelled to be Love, too soon!!! There is a lot of difference between liking and loving, just like boy friend and lover!!
And ya, may be i m generalising, coz it happens most of the times, if not always!! :D
and i m certainly not a hunk, or Cutie pie... :P
hehe
God, how horrible it becomes!! :P
Male bhais, plzzz dont take the liberty, ask them... what they want, after all we are the inferior ones!! lolzzz
To all my female friends, this was a general thought which came to my mind, not that i have experienced it today and i am ranting out here!! lolzz
I know it sounds like some hindi movie dialog, But...
Besharm hoon, kya karoon!! :D ;)
86 comments:
well will want to see an answer to this one...will come back and read the comments :)
haaaaa..
girl: hey can i have your no.
boy:
9884289761-->mob
9840267845-->alternate mob
24567893-->home lan
23444788-->office lan
9832456178-->neihbour's no
9840345789-->best friend's no.
i have never met a guy who's refused to give details ;);)
@Ceedy
bhai.. u r welcome!! ;)
Cheers!!!
@Jane
when a girl asked me my number, I wanted to give her all those
but i asked her if she has a pen?
and then she said yeah!
She put her purse forward on the table and kept removing
make up..
spects..
blah blah...
and finally after some 200 items (Phew!! , this was early! :P)
here is the PEN
so yeah, we are patient!! :)
I am not even sure, if she will find the number after all this :P
cause it will be lost in the mayajal handbag!! :P
eheheh
Cheers!!!
seen "when harry met sally"?
I personally feel (mostly) the guy can never let the gurl n the guy be friends...no offences! pleaase...
@Sachi
y y y?? y jst the guy?
and isnt this too filmy? the sequence u dream of, u forget all the hindi films where a frnd dies for another?
and wat if the guy is committed, married, kya sirf male hi dhokebaaj hote hai kya??? :O
and if u dont make them frnds, toh kya aaj tak kisi ki madad nahi li??? :O
generalisation toh hai na!!
n offence kyon? yahan par its all in good humor!! :)
Cheers!!!
if you ask somebody for friends then you shud be ready for both yes or no.....
Fundamental Attribution Error.
@Ashu ji
no doubt!!
but that wasnt my question!! it is, y cant we just be friends?
:)
Cheers!!
@Solitaire
oyee... itna bada post, aur ek theory!!
mai nahi padh raha hoon, samjha!!
:-/
**C'mon, We are real, emotional, and we can be friends too
who said you're fake, insensitive, and unfriendly Ankur? I can only speak abt YOU, but I dunno abt ALL men!
Some men can be really annoying once they hv a girl's mobile number. Same with women.
Gender has nothing to do with this. It comes to the individual's Personality. Atleast thats how I see it.
:) wut say?
Keshi.
Well said buddy!but when u see ppl around misusing somebody's no. or misusing the pics put up on a networking site.....hw do u think or expect women to trust men!I knw there may b genuine men around but hw do u judge whether the guy is genuine or jus another cheap freak! And abt guys, well i hav never met a guy who has refused to give me his no. unless ofcourse he's gay! ;) anyways nobody has stopped u from refusing...its ok to refuse coz after all its a matter of choice!
Arey! Psychobabble pe toh tune abhi padha. Itni jaldi bhool gaya?
why arent v friends..i thought we are :) so goes ofcoz n wil remain frnds forever..roflmao :D
Sometimes a guy climbs all over you when you give him your no. !
Be it frenship or no frenship.
Msgs - phone calls without a reason, and expecting the person to do the same is ridiculous and damn annoying !
And also the fear of being troubled - misusing the no in words - is always there. And that thought will never go no matter what.
It may be biasing towards the ones who wont do it, but then its her experience with the lecheres (who happen to have come around her more often than a decent one) tells her to be careful.
Each one to his own.
@Keshi
**Some men can be really annoying once they hv a girl's mobile number. Same with women
ya, so but how abt others, like me if u say i m real!! :)
**It comes to the individual's Personality. Atleast thats how I see it.
I agree with you, but somehow the distrust is more in the case of men!! :(
i dont know y!!
Cheers!!!
@Ria
**hw do u think or expect women to trust men
the same way we trust u, do u think that only men are cheaters n liars??
Or is it like no woman ever does anything wrong... or the theory is every man is ready??? :O
**I knw there may b genuine men around but hw do u judge whether the guy is genuine or jus another cheap freak!
and thats the problem, coz of one issue how can u blame to all of us???
**well i hav never met a guy who has refused to give me his no
n i m sorry that this is taken in a cheap way, do u think we dont recieve wrong calls, blank calls, or sms?
i have never understood this!!
**its ok to refuse coz after all its a matter of choice!
ya its choice, but in the name of love or some cheapness.. then its not accepted and i dont think its right!!
Cheers!!!
@Solitaire
padha par woh theory alag hai kafi!!
:(
u also think the same, hai na!!
@Maddie
ya we are friends!! :D
Cheers!!!
@Ella
**Sometimes a guy
isnt it sometimes???
y is it generalised then!
**And that thought will never go no matter what.
its the fear of unknown more than the known!! All men arent same!
**its her experience with the lecheres
and tat too, with some1, smtime!!
and i agree abt being careful, but carefulness shldnt lead to not trusting!! :)
Cheers!!
**but somehow the distrust is more in the case of men
how d u know that? Did u go asking EVERY man on Earth Ankur?
Keshi.
***And ya, may be i m generalising, coz it happens most of the times, if not always!! :D
u r doing that boy.. u r generalizing...
and not ALL girls have 200 item sin heir purse.. i knw many.. who carry none :)
so if u can generalize... y can't any girl...
thats the whole funda abt experience right?! one bad experience.. and u dnt want it to happen again..
i m good friends wit so many men i knw.. including u .. guess.. we r just friends Ankur ;)
now now did that answer any one of yur qs ehh?
Well the guy thing is my personal experience. I try and avoid being friends with gurls..can't do those cheesy n bitchy things perfectly :D so in all I have tons of guy friends :) N I have seen these "friends" change. From friends to good friends to *be my girlfriend* and in some case,(to be specific 4) when they guy has been committed I have seen them feeling "She is the one who loves me, am all yours" or "She has got feelings for me! Is XYZ better or Sachi?"
I agree it could be with girls too but have never seen too.
Btw I don't believe in arguing over gurls or guys issue 'coz we need each other irrespective of who's good or who's not.
And yes! to tell you that out of the THREE best friends (friends for life) I have TWO are guys :)
So guys are goodddd
Hmmm, makes me wonder how is it that i have more GUY friends than gals.. ;)
Well, i guess it all depends on the kind of person u r and nothing to do with u being a guy or a gal... :D
and well, ur kinda generalising ,even tho u saying u aint!!hehe.. and yep,agree with veens abt girls not having 200items in their purse!
Thats life i guess.. one bad
sample = all are bad... :D
arey bikul mana kar sakte hai no dene se...sabko nuber dete ho kya aap ???
i have a lot of guy friends. who've been just that. friends. nothing more, nothing less. they did not fall in love/lust with me, ogle at me etc at any point of time.
so yeah, i think it's possible.
at the same time, i don't like over friendliness. if i'm meeting someone for the first time i don't want to be asked for my number. i'm just wary. irrespective if it's a girl or guy.
i prefer it when things take their own natural course.
i do know guys who don't give their numbers if a girl asks for it and they don't know the girl well enuf.
on an aside, these are the guys, women are really taken in by! :D don't ask me why :D
I think the same what?
Woh theory vaisi hi hai.
Tum number maango toh nek iraade se but koi aur maange toh iraade nahi hai!
@Keshi
no keshigirl, but with my frnds arnd, its a nice sample size to have!! :)
i dont know, u may be an exception! :)
coz u believe me!
thnxx
Cheers!!!
@Veens
**u r generalizing
yes i agreed to it! :P
**and not ALL girls have 200 item sin heir purse.
i know tat too!! :D
And we r just friends... :)
ya... thnx for being there! :)
Cheers!!
@Sachi
hehe...
i accept that it can happen, but really, the whole point is that y cant the trust be placed in us!! :(
and i have so many girl friends n guys too! :)
and luckily they dont differentiate!! :)
Cheers!!!
@Aaarti
hehe.. then they r lucky! :)
and thats the problem, its not like a barbor shop which u dont wanna visit again once he left u bald!! :P
hehe
Cheers!!!
@Samby
bhai, if i feel the person is genuine then mai de deta hoon!! :)
Cheers!!
@Rayshma
gr8... coz i have many gal frnds too and i have never fallen in love wit them...
ya, i wasnt talkin abt the no given in the first time, but its like after some meetings too, do u still see a problem!!
hehe..i agree to u when u say, that almost most guys will give their nos in the first meeting, irrespective of knowing the lady!! :)
Cheers!!!
@Solitaire
**Tum number maango toh nek iraade se but koi aur maange toh iraade nahi hai!
do u wanna say that, mai maango ya koi aur maange, iraade kisi ke nek nahihai??
:O
Its the comfort factor that makes you friends. Guys can be just friends with girls...who said no!! I have so many of them, and feel so much easier talking to them. They are unbiased and wodnerful at heart.
Sometmes, girls can be wary before they give their numbers...and not all men give out their numbers too...they beat around the bush and then finally talk you out of it if they dont want to give...i think then its the girls choice to understand that maybe, he is just not interested in gving it out...and leave it at that.
With some it's immaturity, with others a previous 'bad' experience maybe...?
And I'm not just talking about girls here mind you :D
Pssst! Hi
:D
dont u think the ratio of cheap freaks is more in comparison to tht of woman around!i mean hw often hav u heard of a man being molested by a woman.....or hw often hav u heard of woman posting a man's no. on a website and he gettin sleazy calls from women! Its rare Ankur....agreed tht there r men like u and my bf. But its not so easy to trust these days. I hav faced problems for givin out my no. so easily in the past, i hav been stalked....and thts y i can say so!
So Ankur does all ur mates go ard asking/giving phone numbers? lol!
Keshi.
Jokes apart, I agree with Ria's comment.
It may be becos rapists and stalkers are mostly males. I hvnt heard of any females being rapists etc.
Keshi.
Hmmmmm
Does this happen??
if u dont wanna categorize all amles under one...
even all gals cant be ... :))
soem cud really be frds :))
arre no1 differentiates but actually many guys usually do stupid acts..like creating a profile by the name of some gurl..n then being friends with 'em...
the gurl wud hav been friends without orientation too :))
And I am sure people trust you 'coz I do! :))
i really dont think that happens...i mean ofcourse boys cant say no...but sometimes even we need to learn how to b polite n ignore :P
have been there so sayin
lol...all that is true, n smehw certain things cant be changed! we just hav to live with em!
Can't be juz be friends?
I remember telling that to a guy, reminding the guy. Who juz did not seem to get it into his thick skull. Cause at the end of the day he claims me to be his property.
That was a hellish experience.
And i noticed...
most of the times, when a guy asks for ya number. He always seems to use friendship as an excuse and blows it all up in ya face...telling you he is interested in something a little more than friendship.
And i have to say that majority of them who asked number do slide into that direction many times.
I guess it does not mean that every man are jerks. But than again, those who aren't jerks i guess usually have a better approach and wiser approach. i guess u can say it takes two to clap as well.
And about the part when a girl demands you give and say yes. you should lose her the moment she thinks she have a right to have ya number when you don't think so. She is one of those hellish-to-be experience i believe..lol.. better lose the shark now before you get whipped up all around. haha..
All i can say is comparing females and males are never easy. Comparing why this and why that is just gonna make things more complicating. Might as well swing the way a man swing and try to understand why a woman shits when you swing..hehehe..
Juz teasing at the end.
I liked cinderella comment.:)
ya i know we gurls have an unfair adv ..yayeeeeeeee :P
k on a serious note..yes, we can be just friends...but here is the deal...
most of the times..not all but close to 95% of the times(sorry abt the 5% times when our judgement is wrong)...women judge rite abt when a guy is just being friends n when he is using friendhsip as an xcuse to flirt n takin adv of the situation...
like ther was this one guy in collg..who i didn't even like to shake hands with..N im generally the hug n greet types n i have guy frends who i do that with...it felt so creepy wit this guy..i knew it in 2 days of mtg him...that nehi..his intentions are not rite...Some men look at gurls as gurls..never as friends.
n my guy friends too are protective(in a +ve manner) abt me when it comes to such guys. i hv 2 v.v.v.good guy frends...n these guys are v. protective of me They hv told me how some classmates of ours speak abt gurls behind our back while saamne se they are "super-friendly" wit us.These guys will tell me.."party Akhele ja rahe ho?hes gonna drop u at midnite?be careful. Taxi lo.."...its coz they know men!not all men are like that but not all men are friendly..n one doesn't want to take the chance splly when one's intution is warning them.
Do i make sense?
i guess its the way a guy comes across...i'd think twice to give my no..
its the same thing if yur in a pub n a gal smiles at a guy....the guy thinks ah, she is easy....jabki may be she just smiled cos she is friendly, but then the guy has got it all wrong....thus after experiencing such stuff.....i think gals r hesitant....cos they r misunderstood.
btw yur post was cute hehe
Your answer to Paratrooper is exactly what I was trynna tell you !!!
You must feel the person is genuine. Ab woh feel nahi aayegi to kyun du, chahe woh apni jagah kinna bh achha kyun na ho.
Aur waise bhi no. dekar karna kya hai ? When you aint gonna call, aint gonna meet....?!!
cant we? dont know dont know!! :P
anyways i believe it is all just due to some misunderstandings caused by using wrong words, statements, looks, etc.
Or maybe the girl liked to be convinced she is being someone's crush .. you know we always take some illusions for real :D
Anyways, nobody said we cant be JUST friends! :)
sure, friends ho sakte hain...but I don't know...I wouldn't give my number to anyone (guy or gal) after I meet them just once. I will prolly give my email address first, and all that. You know dheere dheere you start to trust someone, and before you even realize it, you are pretty good friends. zyaada sochne ka nahi! itne saare friends to hai tere ko, phir aisa doubt kyu?
@Prats
**They are unbiased and wodnerful at heart.
thanks a lot!!
i m not sayin that the number shld be given like this only... the whole issue has come out to it!!
but i just asked, can we just be friends!!
and i agree with u that it shld be left if any of them dont want to give!!
CheerS!!!
@Macadamia
ya, agree...
:D
hi, how r u... its been long!!
:)
cheers!!!
@Ria
i agree to u completely dear frnd that there are more cheap freaks!!
hehe... those things never come to picture, how man is always molested by woman! !:P
kiddin! :D
ya.. thats ridiculous, copying sm1 account or misusing sm1's no...gosh, i hate it simply!!
i know that u shldnt give ur no tat easily, but i was just sayin tat when u believe that person, then also y not... and Ria, my basic question was, that y is it always taken as a bad question from men to ask no or email?
thnxx a lot for counting me in with ur bf... it really makes me feel good that ppl think i m genuine (which i m! :P )
touchwood, but i have never misused anyones no or email... i cant ever!! :)
Cheers!!!
@Keshi
**So Ankur does all ur mates go ard asking/giving phone numbers
haha.. noways keshigirl!! :P
we ask for something else
:P
hehe
Cheers!!!
@KEshi
i agree to u there also, males are one who cant control their emotion burst often!! :)
Cheers!!
@Chakoli
hehe.. i know that some can really be very very good frnds!! :)
Cheers!!!
@Sachi
u dont think it happens with men, really?
it has happened with me, an orkut it, an email id... watnot!! :)
and ya, its better to be frnds without orientation... its awesome... i have so many of gal frnds... and they dont mind talkin to me anything... just anything simply!! :)
Cheers!!!
@Mayz
hehe.. i know wat u wanna say! :P
u know, i have never understood that how we dont say no... its not tat we just give it to girls only, we give to guys also...
and 2nd... ya, there may be less chances of misuse in our case!! :)
thnx for dropping by! :)
Cheers!!!
@Gunj
:P
well said!! :P
but we can always question them, isnt! ;)
Cheers!!!
@Amy
i know how often friends are mistaken for property! :)
and its wrong!
**telling you he is interested in something a little more than friendship.
not everytime, and u know who will do it, and u know who dont... isnt! :)
heheh... i think u love sharks, coz u often come up with those! :D
kiddin..
but ya true, we shld say no to, and i too say no!! :)
**Juz teasing at the end.
i know u tryin bullyin me!! :P
heheh
and i liked her comment too! :)
Cheers!!!
@Pavi
hehe.. good tat u agree!! :P
exactly, and i m talkin abt when u mix that 95% with 5% :P
exactly, some look girls at girls, and tat too in a wrong manner... which is actually the reason i had to put up this!! :(
hehe.. then they are just like me, coz i always keep worryin abt my frnds too... coz i know how much unsafe the world is!! :)
and yes... all men cant be alike, like all women! ;)
:D
hehe
n u make perfett sense!! :)
Cheers!!
@Princess
do u believe that 1st impression is the last?
ya, actually u said it rightly, being friendly is taken as something else most of the times, and specially nowdays, when sleepin anrd is so easy.. so everything is mistaken for it!! :)
agree completely to u there! :)
hehe.. cute!!
didnt i write i m not! :P
thnxx! :D
cheers!!!
@Ella
i know re, the person must be genuine and its the biggest thing we shld look for...:)
exactly, if u dont feel that u wont give it!! :)
and i dont ask it generally too, but if things are goin wrong in that reason, then i dont mind askin it!! :)
and there are guys, who dont distrub u even when they hv ur phone no... coz it is bad, they took the no for a reason, and that was to know tat u r alright! :)
and they dont load u with msgs n calls! :P
hehe.. but they do call sometimes.. whn the time is right! :D
or may be they do wait to listen frm u! :D
hehe
and meetin is gonna happen, things are just gettin delayed! :P
kya program hai tere weekend ka?
i will see Mummy3 tonite and ugli n pugli kal!! :D
Cheers!!
@Lena
hehe.. we will, i know i know!! :P
hehe.. smtimes, the first impression is just not the last, isnt! ;)
:D
hehe
:P
some illusions! :P
lolzzz
we r friends!! :)
Danke Schon!! :D
Cheers!!!
@Aneri
arre nahi yaar, sometimes i wonder ki aisa kyon hota hai..
seriously mere inte frnds hai aur shayad isliye mujhe aisa lagta hai, may be i m more geniune so even 1 instance make me feel so!! :P
hehe
but this wasnt an instance, discussin smthng with a frnd and then thought of puttin this up!! :D
and aap pune aao, aur agar no nahi diya toh dekhna!! :D
hehe.. kiddin
aur khana toh khilana hi padega pune mai, yaad hai na aapne kya kaha tha, ki pune mai aake mai banaoogi! :D
aap banao ya koi aur.. mujhe nahi pata, par mujhe khana hai! :D
hehe
Cheers!!!
@Aneri
frnd hone ka yahi toh fayda hai! :D
hehe
Cheers!!
something else?
Keshi.
I will go thru this comments as I said earlier...
just meanwhile here is what I got today on email -
"Girls are like phones. We love to be held, talked to, but if you press the wrong button you'll be disconnected!"
***heheh... i think u love sharks, coz u often come up with those! :D
Huh? What is that suppose to mean? lol!
**"Girls are like phones. We love to be held, talked to, but if you press the wrong button you'll be disconnected!"
haha I luv that one Ceedy!
Keshi.
happy frienship day mate... n thanks for promoting ambrosia
@Ceedy
bhai... :P
hahah
;)
Cheers!!!
@Amy
i remember that once u mentioned in one of ur posts, and how u said that the balls of "some men" should be bitten by sharks!! :D
i remember!
hehe
CheerS!!
@Princess
dost bhi aur thanks bhi.. yeh acha hai... :P
girl and boy can never be good friends. i read or rather heard this first in harry met sally and then in hum tumm.
i really feel that there are several wrong notions prevalent in the girls' mindset about a guy s intentions when he sincerly asks for a phone number or asks her out....
and i very well agree when you say that males or boys or guys have to agree to all what a women asks for(in context to your topic of blog) n if they dont, then they are termed as rude and bad mannered isnt it ?
i vehmently support u dude when u say not to generalize entire manhood for misdeeds of some loosers...isnt it ?
lage raho ankurbhai, hum tumhare saath hain :P besharam hone me koi harz nahi he...
and who knows askin for a phone number or a date out in a chick place might kickstart a serious relationship!!
and i dont really understand what girls mean when they call a guy cute :)
is he supposed to be a kitten or is he one with girlish traits ?
cos i dunno if a guy can be cute....yeah a girl is cute, but a guy ? kuch hazam nahi hota...
if smbody knows, please explain it to me :_
looks like my blog is out of ur blog roll.....kya hua?!?!?!:P:P
no comments on this one, loved reading the answers, btw how was friendship day for u, hope u had a happie one:)
@Buzz
thnxx bhai!! :)
and i guess noone will answer u! :P
kuch sawalo ke jawab nahi hote!! :P
heeh
Cheers!!!
well.. u were out coz i didnt figure myself in ur blogroll... :)
but u r back! :)
and happy friendship day... :)
mine was.. morning watchin movie, evening drinking alone in a Lounge bar!! :P
Cheers!!
hats off to you man.
nice writeup.
Very well written.
It might be like girl want to confirm that friendship (which is most valuable asset) they are sharing with the guy is worth it or not.
If after knowing a person for a long time also they won't trust them then that means she's of reserved nature and then you are helpless.
Tejas
www.tejaslakhani.com/blog
if i know the guy enough to meet him a couple of times, i see no issue in giving him my number.
if i think he's not worth my time... then leave alone my number, he doesn't even get to see me again! :D
@Tejas
thnxx :)
n thanks for dropping by! :)
Cheers!!!
@Rayshma
yaar, yahi.. exactly yahi sunna tha mujhe!!
if u cant trust sm1 then dont meet, and if u trust then y to hold such things back.. :)
Thnxx! :D
Cheers!!!
i dont think we need to generalise it just depends on how u got talkin how much u clicked etc etc
in essence i think that a girl and a guy can be friends and very good ones at that too...
i for one have quite a few really good male frnds, ones who i call before any female frnd of mine...
Hi ,
I was reading ur blog posts and found some of them to be wow.. u write well.. Why don't you popularize it more.. ur posts on ur blog ‘Two Horns of Dilemma’ took my particular attention as some of them are interesting topics of mine too;
BTW I help out some ex-IIMA guys who with another batch mate run www.rambhai.com where you can post links to your most loved blog-posts. Rambhai was the chaiwala at IIMA and it is a site where users can themselves share links to blog posts etc and other can find and vote on them. The best make it to the homepage!
This way you can reach out to rambhai readers some of whom could become your ardent fans.. who knows.. :)
Cheers,
khaane ki baat kahaan se aa gai is discussion mein??? :\
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