Tuesday, July 8

Love or No Love!!!

Today i decided to remain single for next 2 years which will turn me 30. No love, no relationships, no marriage!!!

Was having a discussion with a friend, and she said.. there is a time to everything Ankur... i said yes.. it hasn't come!!! :P

and just now one friend was sayin.. u bet!!! :P

Well, dont know... have read it a lot of places, commented on it.. but u do tell me... how does it feels to be single at 30?
Is it good, bad or kinda mix???
Implications u think???

Really dont have anything great to write so discussing my personal stuff here!!!
but really need u all, for me to look into my decision!!! :)

Cheers!!!

110 comments:

aneri_masi said...

It will feel the same as it does at 28. Koi fark nahi padega, aur padna bhi nahi chahiye.
The "time" for getting into anything is when you "feel" like it. There is nothing too soon or too late.

P said...

I second Aneri_masi.
Don't make your life a time-table. My philosophy is take things as they come, whenever they come. Don't push away love if it comes to you next year. Don't sweat it if you don't find it in more than 2 years.

P said...

Btw, I love this song!

Sach said...

Make that two people on bet!
:)
Btw..what's this 30 ka funda goin' on? I think you should marry someone before that. Jaldi dhoondo!
:)

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Princess Mia said...

oye age mein kya hai...they r just numbers mate....if yur young at heart doesnt matter if yur 30 or 40...

enjoy yur singleton right now....

Solitaire said...

Single at 30?
Is there a rule that people should not be single at 30?
What's there to discuss about it?

Ne said...

When you step away from love, relationships, dating and all that.. it seems like you begin to let your guard down.

Love seems to find you! When you give up on it or just try to put it past you!

Go for it! But I don't see you single long Ankur you are a great catch!!!

Shalom
Ne.

ceedy said...

on a lighter note I will sponsor 30+ for you....)

I do beleive everything has its time and it will happen when it has to...love has no qualms entering your life at any age....then why do you?

Keshi said...

Seriously what is this

'Is it OK to be single at 30?'

saga going on in Blogville right now?


I dun u'stand it. Does love n marriage go by a certain AGE? Is it Love ur really looking for or SOCIETY's approval on ur life?

Keshi.

Ashu said...

you got it out of me dude. 30 and all was my post. i shd hv copyrighted it , phbbbbbbbbt

anyways fun apart, you must have your good reasons to evade a relationship for next 2 yrs, but trust me you cannot resist it.

the day you have to fall for somebody, you would and as kashmira says you would one day and when you would, the time and backdrop, the age wont matter

Ashu said...

keshi, in traditional indian society, marriage has to happen by an age, but then who gives ears to that....

Macadamia The Nut said...

Do whatever your instinct tells you Rockstar ;-)
You're eitherways only as old as you think you are :D

Keshi said...
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Keshi said...

**in traditional indian society

Ashu u mentioned 2 words that explains this dilemma. And they r:


TRADITIONAL

and

SOCIETY


Who gives a damn abt em! Love isnt abt AGE after all.


Keshi.

carolinagal said...

You shouldn't put a time-stamp on it Ankur. What if you find someone next year and fall in love with her? So just take it as it comes.

And who said being 30 and single is bad? I am 30 and I am still not married...but I am very happy with my life. Thats all that matters in the end doesn't it?

Keshi said...

btw Ankur, Stygian has replied to ya in my blog. :) Come check it out!

Keshi.

Anjuli said...

you don't plan love or marraige...they just happen :)

Cinderella. said...

I say feelings have no age to come, and you neednt rush it you still arent upto it, 30 or no 30.


And like Mia said age is just a no....that shouldnt be a barrier or a influence for anything !

Enjoy life buddy.

RADhika said...

people can be single whenever they want.. just that they should "feel" single.that's it!

Mishra said...

Sir, I am a fan of yours.Dropped in here through Cinderella's space.Will blogroll you,if you do not mind.
Cheers,
Mishra

Keshi said...

btw Ankur I hv a msg for u in Anjuli's blog. Hv a read when u hv time.

Keshi.

Mishra said...

Staying single is amazing.I believe that applies to all age groups.I mean look at some of the greats that India has ever produced.Bajpayee Ji is a fine example.One can devote all his time for something that he loves to do ( now that love is not what we see in those stupid bolly flicks ).Still, having relationships is being human and 'just working' is being a machine.We actually can not say if its good/bad on an absolute basis.Baaki sab prabhu ki ichcha...

Bhai I am an admirer of your reviews that I read on various blog-spaces.Hope to learn a lot from you Sir.

Chakoli said...

LOL...

Ur choice....afterall its ur life;-)))

Bahut saari ladkiyon ke dil tod diye par aapne;0))))

but I suppose... 2 is better then 1:PPP

Vrij said...

Dont put a leash on urself. At 28, you are at the right age to be open about love and marriage. I would surely say, keep ur eyes n ears and ur heart open to others. Dont try too hard, but dont miss on clear opportunities. Saying I will not fall in love for the next 2 years is like asking ur heart to go on a dharna. Love will surely knock on ur doors.. today or tomm.. dont overlook it.

Abhishek Khanna said...

no idea.. still waiting for 30 n marriage both!

Me said...
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Nirmal said...

heheh tats cool bro...

so u not invested in diamonds yet i guess...lol...

Prashant evolving.. said...

dude dont decide to remin single.. did you decided tht you wud now get into relationship..it just happens yaar come onn..

aneri_masi said...

on second thoughts...

you should get married by the time you are 30. Otherwise you will break out into hives, your left leg will shorten by half a millimeter every year until you get hooked up, your speech will start to slur. you will start dreaming about toads every day, and the toads will get new skills in every dream.

when you do get married, the symptoms will slowly go away.

now you tell me why you even had such a question in the first place?

aneri_masi said...

and oh, you should have kids by the time you are 30 and half.

Keshi said...

hahaha Aneri good one!


And Ankur, why do u put bars on ur emotions? Such as 'I'll remain single til Im 30' etc etc. U cant really put barricades across what u might feel tomorrow.


U may not be in love today...but who knows who u'd meet tomorrow? Just keep ur heart n soul open to just abt anything. Experiences r waiting to happen and no one knows WHEN.


Keshi.

Ashu said...

agree with kesji girl!!!

J said...

Ohkay so this is the post that triggered another post. Hmmm.

Staying single at 30, no harm in that as long as you don't have any issues with it.

I guess it's the mindset and the society that sort of puts a lil bug in the head.

Buzzz said...

hey Ankur, i can co-relate to your blog many times. I would love if you could visit mine blog too.

As of it, the 30 is something that i m hitting in 2 weeks time and i m single ;). so if you want to know and feel at 30, i can share it..

nice blog this

crasiezt said...

Does age make a difference? To society yes it does.."Oh mg God he/she is 30 and single..something must be wrong". But why care 2 hoots for losers like them eh?

Ria said...

hmm i wud agree with wht ur friend said!i believe everything happens for a reason and tht everything has its time. I never knew tht i wud fall in love so early in life.....considering the fact tht i was jus 18 then!so chill maar yaar!Har phase main ek apna hi maaza hota hai. :)

aqua gurl said...

Again inexperienced to comment:PP

All i can say is....being single at 30....no biggie these days....its about how you live your life at 30...not what age 30 does to you!!!

Ankur said...

@Aneri_Masi

**The "time" for getting into anything is when you "feel" like it. There is nothing too soon or too late.


True... :)
I have realised this!! :D

Cheers!!!

Ankur said...

@P

Thanks...

I am not gonna push anything away!!! :)

i m open to signals now!! !:D

Cheers!!!

Ankur said...

@P

hai na.. this song is amazing!! :D

Ankur said...

@Sach

hehe... okie u too wanna bet!! ;)

haha... I am not looking, but also not stopping myself now!! :D

Cheers!!!

Ankur said...
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Ankur said...

@Sneha

haha... there is no rule yaar, but u gave a typical answer which i was looking for!! :D

I wont disccus it, I will fall if it comes, otherwise i m happy d way i m !! ;)
:D

and i m looking for signals now, as Vrij said!! ;)
lolzzz

Cheers!!!

Ankur said...

@Ne

**Love seems to find you! When you give up on it or just try to put it past you!

how true!!! :)

**But I don't see you single long Ankur you are a great catch!!!

Now thats a great thing... thnxx :)

Cheers!!!

Ankur said...

@Ceedy

oh great... m coming there then!! ;)

sometimes i have to question myself yaar.. keeping in mind all the pressure coming from the family!! :(

Ankur said...

@Keshi

hehe... no my saga is different!!! lol

No... rightly said, love doesnt go by age!! :)

Cheers!!!

Ankur said...

@Ashu

:P
ya.. u made me think babeh... :P

no, i dont want to evade it... not at all!!!
but sometimes i think of it... and then!!!

and yes... age wont matter!!!
thnx :)

Ankur said...

@Macadamia the Nut

hehe... i think i m just 18!!! :P
;)

Cheers!!

Ankur said...

@Carolinagal

yes... actually while writing this post, the first post which came to my mind was urs only which u put up when u turned 30!!! :)

I am happily single!! :D
hehe

Cheers!!!

Ankur said...

@Keshi

I hv replied to Stygian, keshigirl!! :D

Cheers!!!

Ankur said...

@Anjuli

yes... true!! :)

Cheers!!

Ankur said...

@Ella

I wont rush it seriously, but i have also realized reading all the comments here that is shldnt stop myself too.. if it comes, it will.. .otherwise i dont have any Qualms!!!

Thnxxx...
and btw.. this chasma pic makes u look super cute and kid!! :D

Cheers!!!

Ankur said...

@Radhika

now this feeling single becomes a problem sometimes!! :P

Cheers!!!

Ankur said...

@Mishra

Thanks a lot Sir... really dont make urself a fan of mine... i m very impulsive!!! lolzzz

will blogroll u soon!!! :)

CheerS!!!

Ankur said...

@Keshi

Thnxxx a ton Keshi for writing there in Anjuli's blog!!! :)

U rock Buddy!!! :)

Cheers!!!!

Ankur said...

@Mishra

I thought u will ask me to take a Cue from Rahul Gandhi... one of the most eligible bachelors arnd!! ;) :D
hehe... just kidding!!!

**We actually can not say if its good/bad on an absolute basis.Baaki sab prabhu ki ichcha...

So true!!! :)

sir... u r making me a fan of urs with ur comment here!!! :)

Cheers!!

Ankur said...

@Chakoli

:P
i know its my life!!! lolzzz

kiska dil toda yeh bhi toh pata chale!!! :O :O

hehe...
2 is better than 1??? :O :O

Cheers!!!

Ankur said...

@Chakoli

:P
i know its my life!!! lolzzz

kiska dil toda yeh bhi toh pata chale!!! :O :O

hehe...
2 is better than 1??? :O :O

Cheers!!!

Ankur said...

@Abhishek khanna

me too waiting!!! lolz

thnxx for dropping by!! :)

Cheers!!!

Ankur said...

@Nirmal

I think i like a diamond!! ;)

Cheers!!

Ankur said...

@Prashant

i dont know if it will happen or not.. so now i have left it on fate more than anything!! :P

Cheers!!!

Ankur said...

@Aneri

**you should get married by the time you are 30. Otherwise you will break out into hives, your left leg will shorten by half a millimeter every year until you get hooked up, your speech will start to slur. you will start dreaming about toads every day, and the toads will get new skills in every dream.

lolzzz... thanks a lot!! :P

Yaar, coz family wants me to marry anyhow this year, but i am not in any hurry to find the girl i want to live my whole life with!!!

So i dont know what to do... :(

Ankur said...

@ANeri

:P
30 mai shaadi toh 30.5 mai kids kaise!!!
meri biwi aapko marne wali hai!! ;)
:D
hehe

Cheers!!!

Ankur said...

@Keshi

**U cant really put barricades across what u might feel tomorrow.


I have accepted this after reading all the comments here!! :)

WHEN... is the whole question it seems!! lolzzz

but now i m not here with my heart and eyes closed!! :)

Cheers!!!

Ankur said...

@Ashu

ok Ashu ji... read my reply to keshi then!! ;)
:D

Cheers!!!

Ankur said...

@J

**so this is the post that triggered another post. Hmmm

which post r we talkin abt here???

Exactly, u got it right dude, its society which wont let us livEE!! :P

hehe

Thnxx for dropping by!!
Cheers!!

Ankur said...

@Buzzz

buddy, will blogroll u!!! :)

kewl.. u r hitting 30.. than u r d 1 to listen to!! :D

Now dont blame me for me buggin u!! :P

Cheers!!!

Ankur said...

@Crasiezt

yes.. just to the society!! :D

**But why care 2 hoots for losers like them eh?

yaar... sometimes!! :D

btw.. thnxx for takin some time out of ur busy schedule mam!! lolzzz

Cheers!!!

Ankur said...

@Ria

even i fell in love when i was 20!!! :D
hehe...

par sahi kaha... har phase ka apna ek maza hota hai and i m enjoyin this one now!! :D

Cheers!!!

Ankur said...

@Aqua Girl

no experience... just think and answer!! ;)

yes... i am gonna live my life at 30.. KINGSIZE!!! :D

hehe

CheerS!!!

Ankur said...

@Vrij

**keep ur eyes n ears and ur heart open to others. Dont try too hard, but dont miss on clear opportunities.

bhai, this sounds like.. "Look for the singals"!! !:D
hehe
aur mujhe kisi movie ki yaad aa gayi!! ;)
:D

I am not gonna overlook at it now!!
m open!! :D

CheerS!!!

Cinderella. said...

Yeah, dont rush, but aa raha hai toh khule baaho se welcome karo (sorry I coudnt find a hindi word for that)...

Btw, if you're gonna keep this pic on your profile or any goddamn where eyes can see it, tab toh bhul jao kuch hone ka ya kisike aane ka....


Abhi tak dadhi hai ya gaya ?

Cinderella. said...

Haan yaad aya, swagat karo....yesssss........aur dadhi hatao...

Keshi said...

ok so if love doesnt go by age as u and I believe, wud u marry a woman who's 100yrs old? LOL!

Keshi.

Ankur said...

@Ella

**but aa raha hai toh khule baaho se welcome karo (sorry I coudnt find a hindi word for that)...

Bhelcome... heheh ;)
haan re.. ab wahi soch raha hoon!! :D
mana karne ya rush karne se acha hai ki if it comes, then see!! :)

**Btw, if you're gonna keep this pic on your profile or any goddamn where eyes can see it, tab toh bhul jao kuch hone ka ya kisike aane ka....

all my gud frnds say that!! :P

**Abhi tak dadhi hai ya gaya ?

Pura chikna ekdum ab toh bhidu!! :D

Cheers~!!!

Ankur said...

@Ella

**Haan yaad aya, swagat karo....yesssss........aur dadhi hatao...

wah wah.. Nara ho gaya...

Swagat karo.. dhadhi hatao!! :D
:D

dadhi hat gayi, and swagat ho jayega!! :D

Ankur said...

@Keshi

**wud u marry a woman who's 100yrs old? LOL!

If i so fall in love, then i would!!! :)

I have experience... love doesnt last forever anyways!! :)

Cheers!!!

Keshi said...

Ankur plz dun lie. LOL!

Keshi.

Ankur said...

@Keshi

not kidding at all!!!

i m serious!!

If i will fall in love with her, and if i think of marryin.. i will certainly!!

Veens said...

koi farak nahin padega

Ankur said...

@Veensie

pehle toh... "Dhanya bhag humare jo aap humare blog par padhare"!! !:P

ab tu toh shaadi kar rahi hai, mai reh gaya akela!!! :(

farq toh pda gaya na!!! :D

Cinderella. said...

I watched Jaane tu last tuesay....lalalalala.....you're late !!!!

Badhiya movie thi. Dekhna zarur !

I so wanna watch Hancock ! Batana kaisa tha....

Cinderella. said...

Hahahahha...ab chikne Ankur ki photu toh daal bhidu !!


Nayi photu lagao - ladki patao...

LOl...! Whata sorry ass nara is that...bahahaha !!!!!!

Ankur said...

@Ella

Chidha le... par mai bhi dekh loonga is week for sure!! :D
:D

haan mai tujhse pehle dekhoonga Hancock!! :D
yeppie!! :D

hurray!! !:D

Ankur said...

@Ella

no ladki patao contest here!! :P

fotu hategi aaj ratri mai, ghar jakar upload karni padegi.. cable nahi hai abhi phone ki!!! :D

waise u look so different in this fotu of urs!!

Cheers!!!

Solitaire said...

Ankur,

You asked me on Psychobabble if you could blogroll it.

You sure can now that its up and running again!

http://gujjuben.blogspot.com

Ankur said...

@Sneha

Thanks! !:)

Cheers!!!

crasiezt said...

Sarcasm kahe ke liye babua? Apun sahi mein busy rehta hai...

Ankur said...

@Crasiezt

arre sarcasm nahi re... total majak re...

miss ur comments... isliye!! :D

J said...

Ashu's post.

Ankur said...

@J

u can say this... :D

it really triggered this as i was thinking over this for long!!!

Cinderella. said...

Abhi tak badla nahi photu tumne ?!!
Aur kya different ?!

Meghna said...

Hi Ankur,
Don;t you reply to comments on ur oter blog...mst be busy na...LOL!

Anyways, nothng to say abt this...ur decision...but I wld contradict...bttr fnd a girl and settle down...only if u can LOL!

Loved ur poems and blog...will visit often :)

ceedy said...

*oh great... m coming there then!! ;)*

aaa jao maine kab mana kiya ;)

*sometimes i have to question myself yaar.. keeping in mind all the pressure coming from the family!! :(*

dude YOU have to know what you really WANT....there will be pressures from all facets of life...what makes you think that post marraige/relationship there will be no pressures.....you cannot buckle at them and set unnecessary boundaries...

instead of seeking answers from everyone and obliging to everything - you need to take some time off for YOURSELF sit and really find out what will make you comfortable - mind you what you think will make you comfortable might not be the right answer - but atleast you tried and took a stance - and then instead of blaming parental/peer pressures for everything in your life - you will be the one to blame and sort it...

aneri_masi said...

***Yaar, coz family wants me to marry anyhow this year, but i am not in any hurry to find the girl i want to live my whole life with!!!

So i dont know what to do... :(***

You DO know what you want. Which is you are not in a hurry. Marrying because someone else wants you to is the worst mistake you can ever make.

30.5 mein kids hone maangte, nahi to toads aayenge dreams mein. How you manage that is up to you :)

Ankur said...

@Ella

nahi badla yaar...

n abt diff... chasme se u looking some other being!! :D
hehe...

Cheers!!!

Ankur said...

@Meghna

how r u there?
:)

hehe.. seriously, the other blog is mine is treated by me like an unwanted child!!
but really busy with work these days!!! :)

hehe... now this was cute... **bttr fnd a girl and settle down...only if u can LOL!

hehe.. u know wat, u said it right from the heart without any prejudice!!!
thanku... :)

thanku... and will blogroll u !! :)

Cheers!!!

Ankur said...

@Ceedy

aap mana hi nahi kar sakte ho.. kar bhi doge toh mai nahi manoonga!!! :D

**you cannot buckle at them and set unnecessary boundaries...

sahi kaha... i have realised this!! but u dont know me, at my home they think i m the best guy, who listens to everyone and do as everyone says.. its difficult to break it now!! :P

i tried seeking an opinion, coz this is me... u all r my frnds!! if its reality then face off... but atleast i know how ppl think, learning is good na bhai... so i did... learnt from ppl, decision is eventually gonna me mine!! :)

and yes.. i m not gonna blame anyone, coz i take my decisions, ppl can help me so i will say thanks to them if i succedd, but if i fail, then my fault, coz i choose it!!! :)

:D


Cheers!!!

Ankur said...

@Aneri

**Marrying because someone else wants you to is the worst mistake you can ever make.

yes.. i dont want to make that mistake.. just coz ppl think i m too old wont make me too old!!! :)
thanks...

**30.5 mein kids hone maangte, nahi to toads aayenge dreams mein. How you manage that is up to you

hehehe... :P :P
waise bhi i m plannin to adopt a girl... so i think its possible!! :D

i will be PAPA.. wow!! :D
u know.. the thoughts even make me shiver!! :D

hehe
Cheers!!

Princess Mia said...

@ankur

oye young at heart is more like.....u can be at amtured up in yur head but dil mein yur still a baccha or a younger n dont consider yurself to be the age u r actually....

trust me i feel act n behave younger to my age ;)

Princess Mia said...

BTW hey pls stick to the name mia....pls pls pls...on yurs as well as my blog can u pls edit / del tat comment ....u know what am refering to

Ankur said...

@Princess

**trust me i feel act n behave younger to my age ;)

hehe.. than i do this all the time too.. i can never grow up at heart, coz i love to be a kid!!!

:D

once ppl meet me, they come to know tat... all my friends love/hate me for that only!!! :P
they have to be a part of my pranks too at times!!!! :P

heehe

CheerS!!!

Ankur said...

@Princess

do u have any other name than Princess??? :O :O

oyee.. how come i dont know!!! :P :P
hehe

kiddin re... dont ya worry!!! :)
we will stick to princess!! ;) ;)

enjoy...
CheerS!!

Sweetstickychewy said...
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Sweetstickychewy said...

I guess being single at 30 could be good and bad based on individuals's preference.

But it can also get stressful when everyone else have someone and you are still hanging.

I say...take one step at a time but yet do not miss out on opportunities that say hi.;)

Sometimes its the little things that lead to the big things that are worth far better than our demanded time.;)

cheers!:D

rayshma said...

got here a tad late... hence, the tardy comment.
honestly... there's nothing like "time" or "age". it's about finding the right person. right for u, not perfect or anything. and once u find the person, u'll know. :)
enjoy being single till u meet the one for u, ankur! all the best! :)

Ankur said...

@Sweetstickychewy

**I guess being single at 30 could be good and bad based on individuals's preference.

true :)

**I say...take one step at a time but yet do not miss out on opportunities that say hi.;)

hehe... ya, now i m not closing myself for it!! :D

**Sometimes its the little things that lead to the big things that are worth far better than our demanded time.;)

so true!!! :)
liked ur comment very much!! :)

cheers!

Ankur said...

@rayshma

hehe.. no problem! :D


**honestly... there's nothing like "time" or "age". it's about finding the right person. right for u, not perfect or anything. and once u find the person, u'll know. :)

yes!! :)
i guess i need the right person!! :)

I am enjoying my Singleton!! :D
hehe

Thnxx

Cheers!!!

Ankur said...

@rayshma

hehe.. no problem! :D


**honestly... there's nothing like "time" or "age". it's about finding the right person. right for u, not perfect or anything. and once u find the person, u'll know. :)

yes!! :)
i guess i need the right person!! :)

I am enjoying my Singleton!! :D
hehe

Thnxx

Cheers!!!