Friday, July 11

Maa Ki Umar Ki!!!

I was thinking of writing a Thank You post for all you guys for really making me realize that neither should I hurry nor should i close myself for love, but this incident really boiled me up!!

I was coming back from office today some 30 mins back. I was crossing a signal and the vehicle in front of me pulled break and so did I. Suddenly i realise that my left feet is crashed with the front wheel of a Qualis!!!
I stood there and realized it, it was a cold feeling, and as everyone was blowing their horns so I made a move!!!

Now you can imagine that when I was driving almost at 10 kmph and I stopped some 2 mtrs before the vehicle in front of me, how much speed this Qualis was in!!!

I stopped myself at the beginning of the other road, and waited for this Qualis. The car came and i shouted at the driver (it was paining a lot!)... "Dekh kar nahi chala sakta kya, itni jaldi hai kya tujhe???" (Cant you drive watchfully, Are you in so much hurry???)

And suddenly i heard the sound of this lady, who was sitting in front seat of the vehicle, and she said "Yes, we are in a hurry!!!", and this was in English!!! and that totally pissed me off!!!

I shouted at the driver, "Itni jaldi hai kya ki kisi ki jaan le lega??" (Are you in so much hurry that you are going to kill someone?) and instead of driver the lady again replied, "Yes... We are in hurry!!!"
And that was the end!!! I shouted, "Lady, If you know 4 words in english, dont think you can do anything you illiterate!!!"

And she replied back... "We are in hurry, do whatever..."
I said... "I will report this... Wait a sec!!!"
And she said... "Do it...Driver chalo(leave)"

And it made me furious... and i shouted at the driver... "Isko sikha ki how to talk when you hit someone!!!" and i was about to get off my vehicle so that i stand in front of the vehicle and let it wait there till the police comes!!!

And then suddenly... "You are illiterate!!! "
And i said.. "Fuck off!!!"
And then she said... "Maa ki umar ki hoon teri mai..." (I am of your mother’s age!!!)
And i said... "Maa ki umar ki hone se kuch nahi hota, and I pointed my finger towards the brain, it comes from here!!!" (Being my mother’s age don’t help...)

And i just said... Asshole and left, coz if I really would have stopped then, i would have slapped her there and then!!!


Is it really justifiable, that if you are in hurry you kill someone???

Is it really justifiable that if you are an old aged woman and your car hit someone, it gives you liberty to talk like this, "Maa ki Umar ki!!!" ???

If someone doesnt behave like a human, should be differentiate then on the basis of Gender?

I havent changed anything what happened, not even the 2 words i said to her, because i felt completely pissed and furious, and if it would have been some guy, for sure i would have beaten him up!!!
I dont know how much right or wrong I am... but I am hurt without any of my fault, both mentally and physically!!!

Still guys, Thanks a lot for the responses on the last post, It really helped!!! :)

Cheers!!!

73 comments:

Cinderella. said...

I know such kinda ppl yaar, i cant believe she actuall had the audacity to yell back at you and after hitting you...shucks !!!

take some medication ok, and thand rakh !

take care buddy.

RADhika said...

Lols...
i am really sorry for what happened to your leg.. i hope you recover fast..

but really, i was literally laughing aloud while reading... somehow i find these incidences very funny... :)

yesterday, me and mom had gone out for dinner, and we were stuck in this traffic .. now this was because of two stupid girls, who couldnt take a 'U' turn by a car! and on euncle was standing there and fighting with them jamming the whole road!
then a fellow went there to help the girls out to take the car, and one of the girls started fighting with him, so much so that the crowd also started to push him away! :D

and i was laughing all the time! :D
so buddy, anything can happen on indian roads!
cheers! :)

carolinagal said...

Sorry to hear this.
You are absolutely right here,, she (or they) should have stopped and waited till the cops came. I wish the laws were more enforced in India. In the US, it is against the law to 'hit and run' from an accident. They would have to go to jail for such an offense.

aneri_masi said...

What she did, and how she behaved was wrong. And so was what you said.
I agree you were angry and had every right to be upset, but I absolutely do not understand the need for using foul language :( Had you not said what you said (I mean the F words) then she would not have said "Maa ki umar ki..."

Your language is what she was responding to when she said she was your mother's age.

Baaki saari galati uski thi. But all the blame came to you just because tumne gaali di.

And from where did illiteracy come into the picture?

Its just sad that India mein if you have a car, it somehow means you are a bigger person and you own the road :( Police mein complain kar ke bhi kuch nahi hota :( There just doesn't seem to be any solution to this :(

How's your foot? Zyaada zor se lagi kya?

Solitaire said...

OMG!
Hope you are doing fine.
Road rage is never a good thing..no matter who is at fault.
As Carolinagal said, its sad that there are no laws in India like her. Things would not have ended this way...

P said...

Hope you are not badly injured!

Some people can be really oblivious to things beyond themselves..they don't care if others get killed.
Those people were absolutely wrong and I understand your anger. You should have actually reported them. Not that they would get drastically punished but at least it would have been some harassment. That would have been a better revenge than using foul words.

Sachi said...

Hey howz you now?
And for that lady, you should have replied her back saying, "Haan main tere bete ki umar ka hun isiliye gadi chadha di kya?"
I just wish some people grow fast..with minds..

ceedy said...

First off hope you are OK...

Agree with both Carolinagal and Sol above...this is a NO NO in the US...

even a fender bender is a big thing.....

You should have stopped and let the police intervene...

And to Carolinagal and Sol...there is but one weird law in NJ - called Dollar a Day insurance for people on welfare...it basically does not cover the person who is hit unless he/she has life threatening injury...

I got hit once on the rear by this lady...and my insurance attorneys took a month and came back saying they cant do anything....so much for coughing up year after year...

Princess Mia said...

howdy do now? theek ho?

well though am a female....but trust me had i been in yur palce i would have bloody taken her to the police....i dont care.....u dont consider gender when its someone mistake....

some ppl r crazy man...just ignore it n relax n recover over the weekend oke....take care

Vrij said...

I agree wid Kashmira in this.. she was just responding to ur gaali.. so instead of the gaali, u could just have left a stinger.. but saying that, if I was in ur place, I would probably have been more violent !!

Aur apne payr ka khayal rakhna.. barf se seka karo..

Mishra said...

There are no excuses that could be based on either age or gender- after that is all what education emphasizes. I have seen people stop me in the middle of dicussion and say, " is this the way you should talk to elders?" or "humaare baal aise hi safed nai hue hain.Tumse zyaada dunia dekhi hai humne"-- well,respect is not something that comes out on account of age- it has to be earned.Similarly etiquettes can not be a function of age/gender.I completely agree with you :). Infact,I would have given way to a hindi speaking lady without a fight !!

carolinagal said...

@Ceedy
Hmm..I never knew about the 'dollar a day' thing. Thanks for the info :)

Ashu'z said...

u cud hv really hit her and blew off t he car....u dint had me else i wud hv showered english abuses on her.....and i cud hv said maa ki........

now u cud understand....

neways u shud complaint abt it, not the gadi ka number and report it to police :)

how z ur leg now and i hope u dont drive anymore till u get alright....

And comparing India to US in traffic violations is a bit too myuch cos u dont expect Indian thullas (pandu or mamu) to be as strict as US ones....bribe them out and you are scot free....

dont give me bad looks for this, this is a harsh reality....salman khan killed 5 ppl thru his rash driving and is scot free :))

gunj said...

u never knw, wats going on smebdy'z mind, all u can do is control ur own n do wat u can for urself!

Sweetstickychewy said...

her brain seems to be out of the window. Like an unsettled mind with too many things to catch up on. but yup that doesn't give her a right to forget road safety etc.

hope your feet is doing fine.

Chin up.;)

rayshma said...

hope ur foot's fine?
she was in the wrong. for sure. but that doesn't give us the freedom to be/do wrong either, does it? i know it sounds very theoretical... esp when people behave so irresponsibly. but then, losing your temper doesn't help either na?
i would have been angry too, but i don't use foul language. esp if the other person is a lot elder to me. am a bit silly that way. :)

vishvsambyal said...

lol...are u sure she was maa ki umar ki....u are too good a person hurtting for no faukt of ur own..i am not surprised they ran away..... u look like cassius clay i always told u

J said...

Ahhh, kya kar sakthe hain... I suppose someone people have nothing in the heads.

Keshi said...
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Keshi said...

Sorry to hear u had to go thru a nasty road-rage incident like that! YUKK I hate it whan that happens. Has happened to me too...with 4 guys. LOL! I asked em to fuck off. Will write abt it soon. U inspired me.


**Being my mother’s age don’t help.

haha good one Ankur!


Wut a bitch she was!

ppl dun realise that in a HURRY to reach somewhere, they can take someone's life in a HURRY too!


*HUGZ* do TC!

Keshi.

Ankur said...

@Ella

yes, actually her saying "Yes, we are in hurry made me all angry!!!"

liya and i m better now!!
thnx :)

Ankur said...

@All

sorry that couldnt reply to everyone individually, but will do it soon!!

btw... i m doing fine now!!
and thnxx a lot to all of you! :)

Chakoli said...

LOL...

u remeber something smilar happned with me as well;-))

people are bad or are we....??:(((

btw hws ur leg nw??

apply some ointment:))

Scribblers Inc said...

Rakh ke dena tha na ankur bhai!!:)

Scribblers Inc.

Cinderella. said...

Hows the leg doing today ?! Beating monday blues..eh ?

Weekend kaisa tha ?

Anjuli said...

mujhe bhi gussa chadta hai aise logon par, dhakkan hote hain sab!

howz your leg now?

Meghna said...

Hi Ankur,
Rightly said....in logon mein itni hava pata nahi kyon bhari hoti.....as cindy di says....thand rakho LOL!

Cinderella. said...

Ankur ! I hadnt noticed the song until now..actually laptop muted rehta most tmes...and aaj office mein bhi music system mte kar ke rakha hai...

Just read your msgs and then saw the song. I have always loved this song a lot !!! Bahut dino baad suna. mail me iska mp3 if you have, couldja ?

It has so much meaning so much depth...wow !!!

Brings tears in my eyes. Umm..used to actually !!

You are too sweet yaar ! Thnx for this.

Ne said...

OMGOSH! I am glad you are alright!

I have such road rage... but yet I would not jeopardize my life or the life of any other due to being in a hurry!

She had nerve to say anything to you!!

Ne

Roo-Ba-Roo said...

Hi ankur....hope ur leg is fine now... I dont know why ppl are so careless and after commitng mistakes they even do not accept it..this is the worst thing which happend with you and made you more furious ....

Hope ppl will undersatnd this....

cheers
sandeep

Keshi said...

Hows u today Ankur? All ok?

Keshi.

Ankur said...

@Radhika

thnx :)
hehe.. no problem, even i find it funny now... :P

pata hai, yeh hota hai, isliye i dont try to help girls warna lagta hai ki line mar raha hai... ek toh madad karo... uppar se!! :P

seriously, anything can happen here!!! :P

Cheers!!!

Ankur said...

@Radhika

thnx :)
hehe.. no problem, even i find it funny now... :P

pata hai, yeh hota hai, isliye i dont try to help girls warna lagta hai ki line mar raha hai... ek toh madad karo... uppar se!! :P

seriously, anything can happen here!!! :P

Cheers!!!

Ankur said...

@Aneri

I know ki wat i said was wrong... but believe me yaar, she didnt had a sign of sorry on her face which actually heated it more!!!

She was happy to hit me!!! :(

i know ki mujhe nahi bolna chaiye tha, but seriously us time i lost control over my mind...

aur haan... aapne sahi kaha police mai complaint karke bhi kuch nahi hota... Laws sucks here!! :(

foot is better now, swelling tha... chala gaya!!! :)

Cheers!!!

Ankur said...

@Solitaire

ya, m doing fine now!!
swelling tha, gone!!! :)

Law Sucks here!!! Once i dialled 100 and there was no response... can u beat this!!! :P


Cheers!!!

Ankur said...

@P

thankfully i m not badly injured!! :)

i know that i shldnt have used those foul words, but her oblivious behavior made it worse!!!

and law sucks...

Cheers!!!

Ankur said...

@SAchi

i m doing fine now! :)
maine yahi socha jo tune bola.. i wanted to ask her ki aapke bete ke saath hota toh kaisa lagta!!!

nahi re... paisa hai dimag mai aur kuch nahi!!! :-/

cheers!!!

Ankur said...

@Ceedy

i m ok bhai!! :)

and India is very different from US..seriously!!! :(

and got...Dollar a DAy.. means u can hit anyone!! :P
hahaha

Cheers!!

Ankur said...

@Princess

ya... theek hon!! :)

actually i was wrong i believe using the f word... but us time i was so much angry that i m happy i didnt do anything else!!! :)

ya.. weekend was a great help!! :)

Cheers!!!

Ankur said...

@Vrij

bhai, seriously, mai bhi violent hona chahta tha, par agar woh aunty nahi hoti.. toh shayad!!!

theek ho gaya hai doctor sahab!! :D
swellin thi, combiflam li.. chali gayi 3 days mai!! :)
hehe

Cheers!!!

Ankur said...

@Mishra

believe me, i m a true believer that wisdom does come with age, but sometimes paisa dimag chadkar bolta hai mishra ji.. aur shayad yahi hua...

She was last concerned abt someones life!! :)

sucks man!!! :P

Cheers!!!

Ankur said...

@Ashu

i know re.. i cud have .. but then she was a middle aged lady... maine f word bola wahi meri galti thi... i agree!!

i m alright now... swelling thi, chali gayi!!! :)

i agree to u on thullas... :)
yaahan par paise se kuch bhi hota hai!! :)

Cheers!!!

Ankur said...

@Gunj

yes pal... :)

Cheers!!!

Ankur said...

@SweetstickyChewy

hehe... chinned up mam!! :d

i m alright now!!! :)

Cheers!!!

Ankur said...

@Rashyma

i know i made a mistake using that f word... :(

but if someone hits u and they are not ready to agree and still fighting over them gettin late... wat to do!! :(

but ya.. losing temper doesnt help!! :)

Cheers!!!

Ankur said...

@Samby

hehe... saale mai ladta nahi hoon aajkal!! :)

:P
cheers!!!

Ankur said...

@J

really!!! :)

Cheers!!!

Ankur said...

@Keshi

seriously... :P
i hope u didnt hit any of them!! :D
hehe

exactly... in hurry is a fault, not an excuse!!! :)

thanks... i needed it!!
*hugz*

Cheers!!!

Ankur said...

@Chakoli

hehe... n auto wala gaya tha!! :P

leg is fine, swelling ha.. chala gaya!! :D

cheers!!!

Ankur said...

@Scribblers inc

bhai.. icha toh wahi thi.. par aunty thi!!!
:)

Cheers!!!

Ankur said...

@Ella

arre was beatin monday blues in the offc working!!! :P

leg is doing good!!! :D

Cheers!!!

Ankur said...

@Anjuli

seriously dhakkan!!! :P
leg is good!! :)

Cheers!!

Ankur said...

@Meghna

hehe.. theek hai ji..
thand rakh li!! :D
cheers!!

Ankur said...

@Ella

song has been mailed to u..

check ur email!! :)

Its my pleasure and honor!! :)

Cheers!!!

Ankur said...

@NE

yes.. i m fine!!! :)

seriously, she had!! :P

Cheers!!!

Ankur said...

@Roo-ba-roo

i too hope so buddy!
thnx for dropping by! :)

Cheers!!!

Ankur said...

@Keshi

i m doing perfectly fine ...
swelling is all gone and i m good!! :D

Cheers!!!

Prats said...

Hey...been seeing your name in many of the blogs I read...so just thought i'd hop over...


Interesting post...
actually gender or age has nothing to do with giving respect. When you are wrong , it is wrong....so the lady i'm sure has issues to deal with ...and she better before opening her mouth...

But its good that you walked away....cos some people just don't listen or know how to behave .


Is your foot ok now?

Cinderella. said...

Thnx for the mail. Its playing on my pc now.
:)

Ankur said...

@Prats

thnxxx... will visit u soon! :)

yeah. actually i walked away coz i saw there was no shame on the face and she wasnt ready to listen!!!
and if i would have stayed than wud have dn something wrong there! :)

foot is fine now, swelling is gone!! :)

thnx for dropping by
Cheers!! :)

Ankur said...

@Ella

oh.. u r welcome! :)

Cheers!!

Sweetstickychewy said...

Thats great to hear Ankur!:D Cheeries!:D

Ankur said...

@Sweetstickychewy

:)
how u doing?

Cheers!!

Keshi said...

thats good to know.

TC Ankur!

Keshi.

Keshi said...

btw Maa Ki Umar Ki means?

Keshi.

Ankur said...

@Keshi

:)

Maa ki Umar ki means... Mother age!! :)

Maa - mother
umar- age

:)

Cheers!!!

aneri_masi said...

Yeah, I know...like I said...badi gaadi hai to they think they have the license to do anything.
And koi upaay nahi hai :( nothing at all!

Ankur said...

@Aneri

pata nahi yaar, paisa dimag mai kyon chadta hai inke!! :(

Veens said...

God!! I had an experience...but then... yurs far worser :((

I dnt knw.. what.. age brings on to sme people... but i wud say..be angry...shout... but the foul language... I won't use it...

but then dnt ya worry... hws the leg? u dint tell me abt this..wen i called u !

hws yur leg?

Keshi said...

haha ok, tnxx!

Keshi.

Ankur said...

@Veens

ya.. hua, par tu busy bee... tere pass time kaha hai!!

:P
:D

Cheers!!!

Ankur said...

@Keshi

u r welcome ;)

Cheers!!!

Vandita said...

what the lady said and did was absolutely wrong...
u take care ankur, hope ure all better now